I Kissed Dating GoodBYE

 
Finally managed to cover the entire book after like 3 weeks - cos i was taking it progressively, sipping in a lil each day the moments i find meself free, and down to destressing myself, and also to bring meself up again - more so, from a recent incident that utterly brought me down to the ground. Yes, a failed relationship. And a long one too that has been. Okay, won't detail so much of that here, as to bore you to sleep with my rambles.

Alright, few of the pointers that hit me:

• Stop at being at any point in time, flirtatious or tempering with feelings of anyone of the opposite sex - cause that's when I stop gettin to know the other party better in the spiritual and emotional sense.
• Same goes to those in relationships - getting physical would result in the same detrimental effect as mentioned above.
• To lead a more purposeful relationship the next time I'm in a courtship - with direction, and not linger in some things too long yet not being too hasty in some aspects.

• To seek consent of the other party's parents / guardians in regards to commencing the courtship (ideally this should be done).
• To involve each other in as much activities that the guy and gal normally dwell in - not to sacrifice these activities for the sake of gettin and meeting up in the relationship, but to involve these activities in the relationship - thus sharing parts of your life with your partner. A very good way, according to author, Josh Harris on letting your partner an insight into everything you are, in terms of character like how you deal with people, your passions, dreams and your strengths - basically gettin to witness you in action, and in the so-called daily mundane routines and repetitious cycles what-nots. Cause that's what marriage is all bout - the never ending mundane cycles of things you do over and over again. Not so fairy tale at all, eh? No, sir.
• Ask the Lord for a certain obvious sign that you'd know when you could start a relationship - and only act if that sign comes. Josh highlighted the story of how Rebecca met Isaac, through Abraham's trusted servant who asked for a certain obvious sign from the Lord.
• Continue building relationship with Him - in prayer, walk of faith with Him, and everything else in between.

• If you're single, it's the best time to devout all time available to Him, cos as soon as one is attached to courtship or marriage, he/she finds that priviledge has come to pass all too often.
• He builds us very vigorously and thoroughly when we're single, that's when He's preparing us to be ready / fit for our future partner - and yet at the same time, He's preparing our future mate (for those who're single) in the same way so that the person would be a fit match to be with us, joined in unity for courtship leading to marriage.
• Giving in to emotional and sexual needs to some person, entails (always) risk of gettin really hurt by the other party, when the relationship ends. I personally still suffer the after-effects of this. And nope, it ain't pretty sight at all. In fact, it lingers and seem to never go or fade away. Not one bit, if not in part.